How can we nurture habits of serious, critical thought in our children? How do we help them sharpen their minds for a highly competitive future? The answer is to stretch the mind beyond the obvious. Experts say that the only route to that would be to develop a “thinking environment” in our home.
Children’s understanding and potential may be defined largely by the age group they belong to, yet a broad set of do’s and don’ts may be all we need to help them make competitive thinkers and well rounded humans as a whole. Here is a “crash course list” of some of those:
The starting step would be first and foremost to examine our own “thinking about thinking”. Deep thinkers may not always be best scholars or the most intelligent kids. The reason behind this may be that while an intelligent person may be able to give quick (read lazy) answers, on the other hand, a daydreamer may often provide deep insights.
Start early. Even as a 5 year old, an early start may give the child a much needed head start as well as an ingrained sense of really thinking about things.
Give them something to think about. Taking the kids to excursions, museums, sharing TV time with them and then discussing about what they have just experienced, challenge their imaginations. Like it may be thought provoking for them if after a tour of the museum you ask them “What might the earth be like if the dinosaurs come back?”
Involve the whole family. Dinner time conversation or small harmless talks at gatherings can go a long way in developing the thinking habit as it will develop the tendency to give and take ideas and sense of sharing thoughts and experiences.
Find patterns. Teach the child to relate new information with the old one. Once the child recognizes patterns of sorts, the decision making and understanding of choices are easier done. What factors determine the purchase or rejection of a certain toy today, may go further and help them decide whether or not a certain bicycle is worth buying or not.
Say what you mean. Be articulate so as to give clear ideas and signals to the child. Asking the child to daily relate certain story or to describe a picture in detail and then discuss the same with them. This will teach them to understand and relate their own experiences in clear words.
Urge them to wear the other person’s shoes, make them understand how others think and feel. Often putting oneself in the other person’s place can drastically alter our perception of the situation.
Teach them to take responsibility for their own expenses in an interesting way. Each time we pass a toy shop, how often have we heard “I want this …” or “buy me this”? This situation presents us with an opportunity to teach another important lesson about personal finance and savings and to make the kids understand that people often save their money for things they want to buy.
This may be done by introducing the concept of piggy bank or earnings through household chores.
Thinking is not a substitute to studies. Thinking and education can not be substitutes for each other, both are necessary for intellectual development.
Thinking takes practice so keep at it! Young people do not develop the habit of logical thought over the night. But if you keep at it then like any well learned skill, it is worth it.
The key here is to follow our hearts. Keep the malleability of their little minds in consideration while trying to instill any values in the children, and what is most important … treat them and their decisions with respect. That way they will also come to respect your decisions and aspirations for them.
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